Take care of yourself this holiday season

by Ashley Schofield-McEachern

The holiday season is a time many of us look forward to, celebrating with loved ones, sharing traditions, and creating memories. Yet, amidst the joy, this time of year can often bring added pressures and stressors. Unrealistic expectations, jam-packed schedules, and the urge to make everything “perfect” can leave us feeling drained.

For many women, the holiday season also brings the added burden of the “invisible load” – the unseen emotional and mental labour of planning, organizing, and managing the holidays. From arranging family gatherings, to coordinating gift-giving and navigating numerous social obligations, these tasks often fall disproportionately on women. All while continuing to balance work, caregiving, and other day-to-day responsibilities. This constant mental juggling act can contribute to anxiety, burnout and even resentment.

As a psychotherapist, I see how the weight of the holidays affects individuals and families. We set high expectations for ourselves – whether it’s hosting the perfect dinner, finding the “right” gifts, or being everywhere for everyone. While these intentions come from a good place, they can leave little room for looking after our own needs.

This holiday season, I encourage you to pause and reflect: What do I need right now to feel supported and at peace? It might mean saying no to one more event, asking for help, or simply making space for moments of stillness in your day.

For those who love the holidays, let go of the idea of “perfect” and embrace what truly matters. A walk in the snow with your dog, a quiet cup of tea, or even a few deep breaths can make a big difference when life feels overwhelming. The holidays aren’t about doing it all – they’re about being present in the ways that matter most to you.

For those who don’t feel connected to the holiday spirit, know that your feelings are valid too. The constant pressure to embrace holiday cheer can be overwhelming, especially if you’re navigating grief, loneliness, or other difficult situations. Consider creating your own rituals that bring you peace – whether that’s volunteering, enjoying a quiet day with a good book, or spending time outdoors. If connecting with others feels right, reach out to someone you trust or join a community group.

Above all, remember that self-care is not selfish. It’s about recognizing your limits, honouring your feelings, and giving yourself permission to prioritize your wellbeing, too.

Ashley Schofield-McEachern, RN, RP and Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional, specializes in perinatal mental health and women’s wellness. She owns Whispering Pines Counselling & Wellness, a private practice in Creemore.